Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Happy Birthday Jane!

It was a good day!  {Minus the part where we got the news that our car is officially dunzo and we need to look for a replacement ASAP.}  As I woke all the kids up this morning to get ready for school, Jane popped out of bed with an enthusiastic "It's my birthday!"  Hahaha.  She's been counting down how many "sleeps" were left for the last few days.  She was so funny, though, because after I wished her "happy birthday!" and "you're 4!" she responded right away with a "not yet."  When I tried to tell her that she was, she insisted once again that she wasn't.  "Not until you make my cake," she told me.  Hahaha.  Oh well, there was no way I was going to be able to postpone her cake and ice cream celebration until the weekend now.  

It's a good thing I went to the store last night to grab some cake mixes and frosting, because we ended up taking the car in first thing this morning and were stuck at home all day long as a result.  I tried to make things as fun as I could around the house for the birthday girl, and in the end I think I succeeded.  We did some coloring in the morning with Alex, and then once he was down for his nap, Jane and I played a little Hide-and-Seek, watched Toy Story 3, and put together a cute little ballet puzzle that grandma had sent for her birthday.

She really was having fun.  I promise.

There's my girl!  

And my boy!  Our new resident marker monster.  Poor beagle pup bore the brunt of it this time.  {That's what he calls his little doggie junk that Sophie gave him for is birthday.}



She somehow cut her finger this morning and kept asking for new band-aids all day long.  

A fairly familiar scene around here.  They all LOVE to play with my phone.  Which is why they hate that I've put a passcode on it.  Hahahahaha.  Although it doesn't stop them from taking all kinds of ridiculous pictures and videos.


When our movie was over, I decided I should probably get to work on her cake while I still had the relative peace and quiet of a napping baby and no big kids home from school.  Jane helped me lick the bowl and beaters and after taking a brief break to deal with other things, I started to work my cake-making magic.  Jane really loves owls these days, so after carefully culling Google images for inspiration, I created this masterpiece:



I do think I've outdone myself this time!  Hahaha.  The kids were totally enamored as well, and I heard from Grace a few different times that this was the best cake I've ever made.  Validation.  I'll take it!  Hahaha.

Quick photo shoot on the back porch after a quick downpour had just ended.

I was excited to remember about this cake stand that I had bought right before we moved.  Its inaugural run was a success!


After finally finishing up the cake, I managed to whip together a last minute and hastily thrown together meal of Taco Salad and everything was ready to go by the time Scott walked through the door.  Our dinner hour has become the one semi-dependable moment of enjoyment and harmony in our day and this evening was no exception.  The kids all had a good day at school and everyone seems to be making new friends.  Thank goodness!  

As soon as the dishes were cleared, we hauled out the cake to sing to our girl and officially make her 4!  She is such a sweetheart and I am so glad she is a part of our family.   









Poor Alex was not quite ready to relinquish the birthday rites to Jane.  He really wanted to blow out those candles for her!

Thankfully, I had picked up a present for her at Costco earlier this week before the car broke down.

Sophie enjoyed her oreos while the rest of us chowed down on cake and ice cream.


Hours of work destroyed in mere minutes.  Rest in Peace little Owl Cake.


The "party" put everyone a little late for bedtime, but we couldn't expect the birthday girl to go on up to sleep without being able to try on her birthday present at least once.  Grace helped her get dressed and did her hair and Jane LOVED it.  

"Expecto...

...Patronum!"  Hahaha.  Jane's a wizard.  {The kids have all been VERY into Harry Potter this summer.}

Sisters...

...Sisters. {Grace is a dog, case you were wondering.}



And that was that.  We have a 4 year old!  What would we do without our Jane Felicity?  

We'd be awfully bored, that's for sure.  Hahaha. 


Tuesday, August 27, 2013

First Days and Failings

I am so not on the ball these days.  As much as I would love to be able to put a blog post up as soon as things happen around here, there just aren't enough hours in the day to do everything that I want to do!  Yesterday was the momentous first day of school and I really wanted to blog about it because overall it was a success! Today?  Not so much.   If I would have posted last night, here is what I would have said:

The first day has come and gone and overall it was a success!  The kids were a combination of excited and nervous for their big day, although I think it was mostly the excitement that was winning out.  We all woke up SUPER early -- it was still dark outside, as the kids kept mentioning -- and were outside and waiting for the bus a good 20 minutes before we needed to be.  Hahahaha.  This left us with plenty of time to take pictures, although -- as always --  there's hardly a good group shot in the bunch.  


"Bright and Vibrant" girl, front and center.  

Sophie and Grace -- Too cool for school.






{Grace wanted a shot of her giving Alex a goodbye hug.}


Ethan -- 5th Grade


Grace -- 3rd Grade


Sophie -- 1st Grade


Jane -- Preschool {although it doesn't start for another couple of weeks.}


Just chillin' on the corner.  As we were walking to the bus stop, Grace informed me that she was "Bright and Vibrant" girl with her outfit.  She followed that comment right up with "what does vibrant mean?"  Hahaha.  When I asked her where she heard it, she said it was from a Tide commercial. 


I love that I caught a shot of all three squished on the same seat as the bus was driving away.  Hahahaha.


The night before the big day, we decided to have a celebratory Back To School Feast and the kids have decided we should make it a tradition.  We had hamburgers, hot dogs, {homemade ketchup}, watermelon, corn and chips.   For next year's celebration we all agreed we should add lemonade to the mix.  After putting Alex and Jane to bed, we had a little family meeting with the older kids to talk about the new school year and help dispel any worries or fears.  We went through some best-case and worst-case-scenarios of the day for each kid and I think it helped certain first born children to stop worrying about what might go wrong.  At the end of the meeting Scott gave each of the kids a father's blessing and then they all went scurrying off to bed as if it were Christmas Eve.  


Look at that bottle of ketchup!  Everyone agreed it tasted even more delicious than the store-bought.  And it was SUPER easy to make.  {Please note that I do not typically make our ketchup.  In fact, this was the first time I've ever done it.  But since you can't have hamburgers and hot dogs without it, and I totally forgot to add it to the list when Scott went to the store, I decided it was time to finally go ahead and try out that ketchup recipe that I had pinned months and months ago.  Final verdict?  A lot easier than you would think, and very, very tasty!}  


And now we come to our first failing of the day.  With the older kids at school all day, and the 2 little ones conked out for a nap all afternoon, I decided to go ahead and paint Grace's bedroom to surprise her when she came home from school.  Well, the surprise was all on me because I ended up painting the ENTIRE bedroom before figuring out that the can of paint I was using was NOT the can for her room.  Doh!  Talk about an epic fail.  Hahaha.  Seriously, though, I couldn't have been more clueless.  Especially since the entire time I was painting I kept think that it looked a whole lot darker than the sample patches on the wall.  The funny thing was that the wet paint looked pretty close to the sample, but once it started to dry, the colored deepened and started to glow and took on a life of its own.  By the time I was finished it was electric!  Hahaha.  It was literally casting a blue-ish glare out into the hallway and along the wall.  It's actually not a terrible color in and of itself, but something about the way the light hits this room made it just a little too bright.  And it wasn't the color Grace picked out.

Color -- "Rossland" from ACE Hardware paint brand.


Failing number 2 came at bedtime when Grace refused to move her mattress back in the room to sleep because the paint was "too bright" and was "hurting her eyes."  The end result was that she slept in the hallway where it took her a lot longer to fall asleep and the result of THAT hit us full force in the morning.

Her bedtime perch.

So that was Day 1.  Not too shabby -- a few misses, but mostly hits as the kids really did seem to enjoy school.  Day 2 was a slightly different story.  I let everyone sleep in an extra half hour this morning, seeing as to how we didn't need to be up and at 'em quite so early, and Ethan and Sophie managed to pull things together just fine.  Grace on the other hand had a hard time waking up and then started complaining about feeling sick, which escalated to her saying she felt like she was going to throw up, and ended with her laying on the couch under a blanket and refusing to go to school and claiming that she hates it.  All after eating two bowls of oatmeal for breakfast.  Sigh.  Poor Grace.  And poor me.  In the end, Ethan and Sophie caught the bus and I managed to FINALLY convince Grace to go to school about an hour and a half later.  And by convince I mean threaten to ground her from electronics for the rest of the week and give her an earlier bedtime as well.  

Once I dropped her off, I did my grocery shopping for the week and got home just in time to feed the little ones lunch and put Alex down for his nap.  Once I accomplished that I tackled Grace's room once more.  There was no way I was going to deal with Grace sleeping in the hallway for another night!  Hahaha.  Since all the prep work was already done, it was pretty quick going for the painting, and I have to say that I should probably revise my previous review of Sherwin Williams "Emerald" line of paint.  Perhaps the gallons I used for Sophie and Jane's room were an anomaly, because both times I painted Grace's room, the paint covered with just one coat and was relatively easy to work with.  The smell wasn't as bad as it was with the pink room and I didn't have any issues with the cutting in or rolling.  In fact, the only negatives I can give for this particular paint now is that it's pretty expensive if you don't buy it on sale and it's REALLY hard to wash off if you happen to get it on your skin.  

Grace's Room Take 2 -- Benjamin Moore color "Bird's Egg" mixed up in Sherwin Williams "Emerald" line of paint in a Matte sheen.


Terrible lighting, but her bed is finally put together and in place and everything is slowly coming together!


Alternate view of her room.  I have to say that I kind of love her 15 dollar headboard/footboard that I found at a St. Vincent de Paul's Thrift Store.  It's totally vintage.  The company is Hard Rock Maple something or other and is probably from the 50's or 60's.  I googled it.  You know, in case I ever want to go on Antiques Roadshow.  Hahaha.


Grace was so excited to see her room the proper color when she came home from school today that she kept oohing and aaaahing all over the place and then, as she was lounging on her bed at bedtime tonight, I heard her say something along the lines of "I'm falling in love with this color!"  In between those moments of sweetness, however, was one swift trip to crazy town that culminated with her calling 911 because I was "being so mean to her."  Because telling her she was grounded from electronics and had early bedtime for the fit she was throwing over wanting to watch TV was SOOOOOO mean.  Well, as those of you may know, whenever 911 is called, a cop car is dispatched right away even if you try to assure them that the call was a false alarm.  So that was fun.  Scott was with Ethan at soccer practice when all of this mayhem was happening, so lucky me got to field questions from a police officer while trying to get Sophie to keep an eye on Alex and Jane in the bathroom {where I had just started to bathe them so they would be ready for bed} and make Grace come downstairs and face the music.  Grace refused to budge from the cardboard box she was sitting in upstairs and the police officer left after I assured him we would handle her on our own.  Epic, epic fail.

I think Grace was a little more freaked out than she was letting on, but still.  We need to keep a child psychologist on retainer these days.  I am definitely feeling like we need some outside help in teaching our kids some acceptable coping strategies for anger, stress, and frustration.  I guess I'll just add that to my list of things I need to get on top of.  Hahaha.  Haha.  Ha?

Thankfully, once the evening died down, all of the kids went to bed without too much trouble and fell asleep almost right away.  I'm hoping that a good night's sleep will help tomorrow go a little more smoothly than today did. After all, it's Jane's birthday and we want to be able to celebrate her day!

Saturday, August 24, 2013

Home Economy

As I've hinted in posts past, we've hit a few rough patches this summer.  The amount of fighting, screaming, and general freaking out amongst the children -- not to mention the complete disregard for obedience and respect all around -- has led to many a breakdown and near-breakdown on my part over the last couple of months.  There have definitely been some legitimate stressors around here that have triggered many of these issues {e.g. the move and all it has entailed}, but the fact of the matter is that it's time to start moving forward.  

Since I'm constantly searching for ideas and methods to help my kids grow up to be responsible and respectable contributing members of society, I've had a book called "The Entitlement Trap" on my radar for a little while now.  When a new friend here recommended it as well, I decided to finally bite the bullet and order it on Amazon so I could read it and have a copy at home as a resource.  I've finished half of it so far, and from what I've read, I really like it.  In the book, the Eyre's are really big on the importance of creating a sense of ownership for your children.  This concept really resonated with me, and for the past week we've put one of their methods to the test by creating our own little family economy here at home.  We took the basic outline of the plan detailed in their book, and tweaked it to work for our family. The three older kids are now a part of this "family economy" and when they contribute to it, they will be compensated.  One of the perks of this new system is that they will have the opportunity to earn a lot more money each month than they have in the past.  The expectation that comes along with this newfound opportunity, however, is that they will now have to buy all of their own stuff.  We'll provide their food and shelter, obviously, but for everything else they will have to pay.  Clothes, toys, treats, outings, entertainment -- you name it.  They are now responsible for it.

When we presented this new system last Saturday, Ethan and Grace were particularly stoked.  Who wouldn't be excited at the prospect of making more money?  Right?  Hahaha.  The basic rundown that we've adopted for our family is this:

{Checklist Chart courtesy of Ethan}

Each week they have the potential to earn 20 points.  Monday through Friday they have 4 areas in which to earn points -- Morning Routine {wake up, make bed, eat breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth, make lunch, and be IN the family room and ready for Scripture Time at 7:20};  Assignment {something they've been assigned to do for the entire week, such as take out the trash, and then once school starts it will include any homework assignments}; Zone {using our old chore chart system, the older three rotate between Kitchen, Family Room, and TV Room, and must have it done before Scott gets home from work and still perfecto when they go up to bed}; and Bedtime Routine {teeth brushed, clothes laid out and IN bed by their bedtime}.  Saturday morning they still have bigger chores to do that are separate from this point-earning system and once Alex is down for his nap we will have a family meeting and Pay Day.

The idea of earning more money sparked all kinds of interest and motivation after our meeting last Saturday.  I woke up Sunday morning to see the older two already hard at work on other money-making ventures.  Ethan created a store in his room to sell his old junk, and Grace quickly followed suit in her room.  The funniest part of the whole morning, however {at least to me}, was when Grace charged Sophie $0.55 for a hairdo for church.  Hahahaha.

Ethan's venture.


I don't think they quite thought through the idea that the only people in the house that might want to buy their junk don't have any money.  Hahahaha.


And Grace's.


Oh yeah.  


One blow dryer...


lots of detangler spray...


and some scrunching later and...


Voila!  We have a "curly" hairstyle!




Unfortunately, the custom hairdo didn't last very long due to another Grace venture.  You see, Grace is never all work and no play.  As I was taking pictures of the "store" in her room that morning, I noticed on her desk a book jacket that she had created at bedtime the night before.  

The Magical Rainbow and the Evil Leprechaun


Once she grew tired of making money, Grace turned her attention to the screenplay and casting for the above story.  About mid-morning, she came down with Sophie, Jane, and Alex all in costume and ready to start filming.  Hahaha.


Jane was the Magical Rainbow.


Sophie was the pot of Gold.


And Alex was the Evil Leprechaun.  Hahaha.




The rest of the week went better than expected in some ways and par for the course in others.  The checklist charts were HIGHLY motivating for Ethan and Grace {although, rest assured -- there were still some behavior issues}, while Sophie had a bit of a harder time getting on board.  Jane didn't want to be left out of the fun, so I whipped up a sticker chart for her on Monday morning and she LOVED putting her owl stickers in each box all week long.  


The final tally at the end of the week was 20 points for Grace, 19 for Ethan, and 9 for Sophie.  For Pay Day, we set up a sliding scale so that 18-20 points got full allowance, 15-17 points got half allowance, and less than 15 points got nothing.  We let them know last week that they could earn back up to 2 points {if they needed it} by memorizing scriptures, and that if they got a perfect score plus those extra 2 points we'd give them a $2 bonus.  Our ever-surprising surprise, Grace knocked it out of the park by getting 22 points this week!  Not to be outdone, Ethan spent the rest of his day working to earn more money by cleaning out and organizing the garage, cleaning out the car {a total trash heap} and vacuuming it, and cleaning up and organizing the office.  He did an awesome job!  And at the very end of the evening he used some of his hard-earned money to treat himself AND the girls to a Hawaiian Shaved Ice.  Every now and then they surprise you. Hahaha.  

All in all, I'd say our new economy is off to a great start.  And now that we've got that in motion, the next big thing on our horizon is school!  Only two more days.  And as much as I'm looking forward to it, I'm also very worried about the extra early {at least to us} start time, as the bus here will be coming a whole hour earlier than the bus came for their school in St. Louis.  Yikes!  It's times like this that I really wish I were naturally a morning person.  Unfortunately, I'm not -- so Monday morning is going to be dawning awfully early around here!  Until next time...